Savage Love

Savage Love

Tell your lovely, loving boyfriend that nonmonogamy is a non-negotiable. You are willing, of course, to negotiate with him about the form your open relationship might take.

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Savage Love: Unsympathetic boyfriends

There’s just one way to figure out whether he’s a nice doofus who’s accidentally hurting you or a giant ass who actually does mean to hurt you

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Savage Love: Kinky, but not promiscuous

Finding appropriate partners is harder for seriously kinky men, but it’s a lot easier now than it used to be.

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Savage Love

“She’s revolted by my body, mind and family. Should I marry her?”

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Savage Love

Dating is what people do before entering into a relationship—or it’s what most people used to do—and you two are already in a relationship. It was a FWB relationship, yes, but it was still a relationship.

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Savage Love

Gender identity goes to the core of who we are and how we wish to be—how we fundamentally need to be—perceived by others.

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Savage Love

I’m a 35-year-old divorced man. I’ve been on plenty of dates since my marriage ended, but I invariably get asked this question on or before date #2: “Why did you get divorced?”

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Savage Love

At the end of the day, what matters is how well we understand ourselves, not how well we match some Platonic ideal of our sexual orientation, and words like ‘asexual’ are just tools to help us understand ourselves

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Savage Love

Setting some fundamental boundaries for your child now will be good for him in the end.

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Savage Love

If you’re going to claim to support trans people, discriminating against them is a little weird.

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